Teachable Moments #25 - Why You Should Ditch "But" and Embrace "And"

Here’s a quick, life-changing tip for better communication: Stop saying "but" and start saying "and." Yes, really.

Why? Because “but” has a way of undermining everything that comes before it. It’s like the “I know, but…” of conversation—shutting down ideas, dismissing points, and shifting the tone to something negative. “I love your idea, but…” instantly feels like a rejection, right?

Now, try this little switch: “I love your idea, and…” See the difference? You’re not dismissing the idea, you’re building on it. You’re expanding possibilities, keeping the conversation positive, and fostering collaboration. The word “and” encourages more creativity, inclusivity, and flow.

In work, life, or even casual chats, “and” is your best friend. It acknowledges the value of what’s been said and invites something new to the table, all without negating the original thought.

So, next time you're about to drop a “but,” take a deep breath, swap it for an “and,” and watch your communication skills level up. It’s a tiny change with a big impact—because who doesn't want to keep the conversation moving forward?